My Husband is Superman to me.

I look up to him. I admire him. I believe in him. I listen to what he has to say.... for the most part.

So when he comes home at midnight on a Saturday after running an event, it disturbs me when he tells me he's feeling down.

Everyone can have shitty days. And he has. But this was different. It wasn't bitching about the company. It was that he was feeling undervalued.

Because he is. He's taken for granted where he works. Everyone knows that he is the best, and they also know that he does the job. He gets the job done. He's the only one that knows the job. And he loves his job.

Saturday evening, mid-event, another Director walks into his office with a secret.

He was offered a MAJOR position with a MAJOR corporation (I'm using caps because it IS major, but remember, he's in a very different field. Not mainstream.) (And not porn either!), and he turned it down. This other Director has 8 years to go until retirement. He can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. He knows exactly what the next 8 years will entail, and he does not want to start something new, when there's only a few years left to go until he's golfing seven days a week.

We love this man. He's a good friend to both of us. I can see his point of view.

Back to The Husband.

He was upset that he's not getting the headhunters knocking on his door. And he runs the show! But nobody in the city recognizes it, because his name isn't attached to it. He runs it from behind the scenes. He's not out there in the world for all to see. He does it quietly. Professionally, but quietly.

And so he's feeling undervalued.

Which, in all reality, he is.

My heart ached for him as we were chatting. I know he's the best (I used to work there... it's where we met). I know that everyone else in that company knows he's the best.

So we're developing a game-plan together. We're strategizing on how he can be recognized "out there" for what he does. So the next 150K job that comes along, will come along to him.

He's scared, like me, of being visible. He's nervous in networking scenarios. He's jittery in public. He's the behind-the-scenes guy. But I think he's ready to step into the spotlight. To claim what's his.

I'm so excited for him. It's about time he was recognized for what he does. It's about time WE realized we are deserving of financial success. Financial wealth.

And finally, it seems we are open to it.

Urs.